If you’re struggling to cope with your mental health or difficult life circumstances, don’t keep it to yourself. Talk to someone about your problems or worries. This is the first step to getting help and dealing with them and feeling less overwhelmed.
Specialist support organisations can give you advice about your mental and emotional wellbeing. They offer services such as:
- listening to you without judgement
- signposting you to support services
- providing therapy if you are diagnosed mental health condition
Thoughts of Suicide
Many people have thoughts of suicide at some point in their life, around 1 in 5 of us. Thinking about suicide does not mean that someone will definitely end their life. Most people who have suicidal thoughts don’t kill themselves because they paused, looked for support and didn’t act on that impulsive or overwhelming emotion.
Choose someone you trust to talk with about your feelings. Someone who has time and will listen. This may be a good friend, family member, work mate or college lecturer. Sharing helps you press the pause button. There may be people who can offer practical support and there may be others who can give you emotional support, reassurance and help you think things through.
Helplines to call if you are experiencing suicidal thoughts
Samaritans offer confidential listening either on their 24 hour telephone helpline or face to face without an appointment. Drop in support is available 9am to 9pm.
CALM helpline is a free and confidential helpline and web chat service for men who need to talk about their mental health, who are down or have hit a wall for any reason. They also offer information and support. Open 5pm to 12am every day of the year
Papyrus HOPELINEUK if you’re under 35 and struggling with suicidal feelings, or concerned about a young person who might be struggling, you can call them weekdays 10am to 10pm. Weekends 2pm to 10pm and bank holidays 2pm to 10pm
SANEline is a national confidential out of hours telephone helpline that offers information, crisis care and emotional support to anybody affected by mental health problems. Interpreters are available to translate into over 100 languages.
Shout is a 24 hour, 7 days a week text service. It is free on all major mobile networks, for anyone in crisis anytime, anywhere. It’s a place to go if you’re struggling to cope and you need immediate help.
If U Care Share if you are worried about something you can talk to trained volunteers using their free, confidential 24 hour, 7 days a week text service. Text IUCS to 85258
How to help if you think someone feels suicidal
Many people who are feeling suicidal don’t talk directly about it. They’re more likely to say they feel hopeless, like a burden on others or make constant negative remarks. They may even say goodbye in way that makes you uneasy.
It may be nerve-wracking to talk to someone about their thoughts and feelings. By listening and asking questions you may be able to help or direct them to a source of help at a critical time.
Experts recommend that you ask directly whether the person is feeling suicidal. This avoids confusion and clears the air for practical steps to be taken. Research shows that by asking the direct question, you do not put the thought of suicide in someone’s head.
Signs of suicidal thoughts
Look at the behaviour of the person: Do they have mood swings? Do they seem depressed or anxious? Have they started clearing out possessions, making a will, self harming, losing interest in things they had enjoyed? Do they seem isolated and caught up in their own thoughts?
Have they had any changes in their life? This could include, bereavement, a relationship breakdown, health problems, money worries, addiction, chronic pain or mental health difficulties. Have they been victims of abuse, coercion or neglect?
How to start a conversation with someone who may be having suicidal thoughts
- make time and space to listen
- listen but don’t judge or belittle
- ask questions. Be direct if you suspect suicidal thoughts
- keep them safe
- encourage them to call a Helpline
- don’t feel you should know the answers or solutions
Remember that suicidal thoughts often pass, but if there needs are increasing call the Universal Mental Health UK number for Newcastle and Gateshead: 0800 652 2863
If the person goes missing, call 999 and ask for the Police.
Mental Health Support
Local Mental Health support services and groups are available if you need ongoing support.
Self harm is when you hurt yourself on purpose. Examples include: cutting, burning, bruising and poisoning, but may also include self neglect, high risk taking, substance abuse, sexual promotion and eating distress. People self harm because they feel an overwhelming sense of distress and they self harm to respond to the fear or anger they feel; to reduce tension or stress or express their feelings or try and take control back.
You might find it useful to keep a self harm diary or journal to keep track of your thoughts and feelings; how you overcome them and identify triggers or patterns for the future.
Support for people who self harm
Young Minds Textline offers you free, 24/7 text messaging support, wherever you are in the UK. Text YM to 85258 to start chatting to a trained volunteer.
All the Helplines above can help you.
Dealing with grief after suspected suicide
Death by suspected suicide can be very distressing and shocking. It can affect up a wide group people who knew the person.
If U Care Share provide practical and emotional support to people impacted by suspected suicide. Help and support is available now if you need it. You do not have to struggle with difficult feelings alone.
Last updated: September 10, 2021